“Take The Hint”: 76 Things People Should Do That Are Basically “Unwritten Rules”
As you grow up, you start to notice that there are little things one can do to make everyone’s life easier. More often than not, these aren’t exactly laws and regulations, just emotional intelligence and life experience all rolled into one.
Someone asked “What’s an ‘unwritten rule’ of life that everyone should know about?” and netizens shared their best examples. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites, and share your own examples in the comments below. And if you want to see some other examples, check out our other article on unwritten rules of life.
Secure your own oxygen mask before helping others.
Seriously. Take this bit of advice and carry it whatever you go through. You can be the most empathetic, helpful, caring person, but even if that’s your one goal, by neglecting yourself you won’t be the best you can be for others. Sort out mess in your own life, don’t carry loads you can’t, and everything else will be so much simpler.
“Read the room” is probably one of the best bits of advice for anyone anywhere. It applies to everything from creative work to managing one’s relationships. Because knowing things is just half the battle, people need to know when and where to actually vocalize them.
Interestingly, the entire concept of “read the room” originated not with life advice, but with robbery. A good thief needed to identify marks, risks, and opportunities, so they would “read” the room they were in. It’s only relatively recently that people have switched over to using this idea in the context of emotional intelligence. Perhaps it’s for the best.
This is just as true in the workplace as well. After all, unless you are pretty close with your coworkers, most folks don’t want to hear about your baby or your family drama on a Monday morning. Indeed, given the amount of time we spend at work, it might be a better place to really internalize “read the room” and pay attention to these unwritten rules.
Despite the fact that these are “unwritten” rules, the good people of the internet have put a lot of work into assembling these ideas, tips, tricks, and life lessons. So if you are interested in reading more, Bored Panda has got you covered, check out our other article on things that everyone should know.
When your roommate, partner, spouse, child, etc. just got home and is still taking off their shoes, putting their keys away, etc….do NOT greet them with a “to-do” request or some sort of reminder. It’s a universally s****y feeling to be greeted by that.
Always leave a place a little better than you found it 🌱✨. Whether it’s cleaning up after yourself at a friend’s place, picking up litter during a walk, or just offering a kind word to someone in need, these small acts of kindness and respect make a huge difference. It’s about adding value to the world in tiny, manageable ways. 🌍❤️
Never screw with someone’s lunch break. Most people hate their jobs, and that half hour to an hour they get to be on their own and enjoy their food and/or just time alone is sometimes the only peace and enjoyment they get for 8+ hours.
If you see someone eating in their car, park or walk somewhere else away from them so you don’t disturb them, if they’re in the office by themself, wait until they’re done to talk to them, if it’s close to the normal lunch hours (between 12-2PM), anything you need from that person can wait until after they get back from their lunch. Never. F**k. With. Lunch.
Learning to ‘read the room’ is one of the most important, and probably underrated, social skills to have in your locker.
If you’re leading a conversation and the other person/people start to look away, act slightly distracted, or interject with different topics, take the hint and change the subject.
Not everyone is as interested as you are in your favourite topics. It doesn’t mean you’re boring (necessarily), but this isn’t the right audience for whatever you’re talking about right now.
I’m consistently blown away by the number of grown adults, even in their 30s or 40s, who haven’t learned this yet and just yammer on obliviously.
Relationships (romantic, familial, friendly, work) are compromise. If you’re not willing to help the world around you, don’t be surprised when the world doesn’t help you in return.
Kindness will be the most valuable item you can use as currency. Without it, you lose long term value with everything we touch.
Examples of a person who invested with kindness?
Mister Rogers
He earned the respect and dignity of the world.
Ive always put this rule directly under the golden one.
NEVER OVERSTAY YOUR WELCOME.
Don’t waste time trying to convince people to care about you. They will or they won’t.
Respect the atmosphere of the room you walk into. If it’s quiet, you will be quiet. If it’s louder, you can be loud.
Give a little wave of acknowledgement when someone let’s you merge / join the stream of traffic. Flash your lights if there’s cops up the road. (Or pat the top of your helmet I’d you’re riding a moto). Edit: I’m aware it’s illegal in many places, it’s illegal where I live too but we still do it 2 finger wave if you’re in the middle of whoopwhoop and pass another car.
If someone takes the time and goes to the expense of sending you a gift for your graduation, wedding, baby shower, etc., have the common decency to acknowledge it and send a thank you note, email, text, or phone call.
Think of your future self not as your current state/mindset but as someone else you have to protect and provide for because that’s who they are.
You don’t know what they want differently than you do now, what has happened to them, their health, their tragedies, their triumphs, the lessons you haven’t had yet, the changes you don’t know you have to make, what feelings you have now that they don’t… So make sure you’re setting them up with the best intentions at heart. They are relying on you for stability & safety, and are watching you thru the memories you’re creating now.
As a dog owner I would like to see more people ask if its okay to pet the dog, not just go for it. Children are usually good at asking first, but way to many adults just go for it. My dog is not yours to just pet. Ask first. And deal with the answer sometimes will be no.
If someone tells you something that
– is private
– isn’t illegal, immoral, or otherwise putting anyone’s life or finances or property at risk
then keep it the f**k to yourself unless prompted otherwise by that person.
Mood and feelings are like the weather. “I’ve found that it’s of some help to think of one’s moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather. Here are some obvious things about the weather: It’s real. You can’t change it by wishing it away. If it’s dark and rainy it really is dark and rainy and you can’t alter it. It might be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row. But. It will be sunny one day. In the same way that one has to accept the weather, so one has to accept how one feels about life sometimes. “Today’s a c**p day,” is a perfectly realistic approach. It’s all about finding a kind of mental umbrella. “Hey-ho, it’s raining inside: it isn’t my fault and there’s nothing I can do about it, but sit it out. But the sun may well come out tomorrow and when it does, I shall take full advantage.”
When someone asks you “How are you?” as a greeting, its OK to lie. That is not the time to trauma dump.
You see someone nicking baby food, nappies, pads, tampons etc you stay quiet.
If your coworkers literally turn their backs to you and don’t respond to you as you speak, it’s a good indication you should stop talking.
People you work with are NOT your friends. They can become your friends AFTER you leave that job, but not while you’re working together.
People are really unaccustomed to others admitting they have screwed up. Most drama in your personal or professional life can be avoided by just straight up contacting the person or people you let down or impacted and saying “hey, I f-ed up but am getting it fixed” instead of letting them discover it. And if you can’t fix it, an apology that *doubles down* on your guilt will usually suffice. “Hey, I f-ed up, it’s totally my fault, I just dropped the ball and there’s no excuse.”
The power comes from not letting them have time to fume over it or giving them room to talk down to you. You’re in control.
Occasionally you’ll screw up so bad that the response is not so understanding, but at that point you probably have a major lesson to learn.
That said, there are absolutely times when admitting guilt has serious consequences and you have to mitigate the damage (think legal consequences in which admission of guilt will have a long lasting impact). Of course, if you’re in *that* situation, you need a lawyer.
Self-awareness is a superpower, to be able to pat your own back and call yourself on your c**p is priceless.
At a house party if the toilet door is closed it is occupied. When open it is available to use. So many ppl close the door after use when nobody is there.
The only time you look in your neighbor’s bowl is to make sure they have enough.
Greeting your coworkers when you arrive at work. It’s basic manners that I know a lot of people don’t follow.
Chew t with your mouth closed. And don’t talk with food in your mouth.
Carry your own weight. Nobody likes a burden, nobody respects a parasite, and you aren’t entitled to anything. When I actually learned to provide for myself growing up, was when I finally developed self-respect.
Driver’s ed teacher decades ago:
Never stop driving the car. If it looks like you’re about to be in an accident, do not let go of the wheel, close your eyes, and scream because you will be in a wreck. If you keep driving the car, you might get lucky and drive through it, it will certainly be a better outcome than giving up.
This advice applies in general – Never stop driving, no matter how bad things seem.
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As you grow up, you start to notice that there are little things one can do to make everyone’s life easier. More often than not, these aren’t exactly laws and regulations, just emotional intelligence and life experience all rolled into one.
Someone asked “What's an 'unwritten rule' of life that everyone should know about?” and netizens shared their best examples. So get comfortable as you read through, upvote your favorites, and share your own examples in the comments below. And if you want to see some other examples, check out our other article on unwritten rules of life.
Secure your own oxygen mask before helping others.
Seriously. Take this bit of advice and carry it whatever you go through. You can be the most empathetic, helpful, caring person, but even if that's your one goal, by neglecting yourself you won't be the best you can be for others. Sort out mess in your own life, don't carry loads you can't, and everything else will be so much simpler.
“Read the room” is probably one of the best bits of advice for anyone anywhere. It applies to everything from creative work to managing one’s relationships. Because knowing things is just half the battle, people need to know when and where to actually vocalize them.
Interestingly, the entire concept of “read the room” originated not with life advice, but with robbery. A good thief needed to identify marks, risks, and opportunities, so they would “read” the room they were in. It’s only relatively recently that people have switched over to using this idea in the context of emotional intelligence. Perhaps it’s for the best.
This is just as true in the workplace as well. After all, unless you are pretty close with your coworkers, most folks don’t want to hear about your baby or your family drama on a Monday morning. Indeed, given the amount of time we spend at work, it might be a better place to really internalize “read the room” and pay attention to these unwritten rules.
Despite the fact that these are “unwritten” rules, the good people of the internet have put a lot of work into assembling these ideas, tips, tricks, and life lessons. So if you are interested in reading more, Bored Panda has got you covered, check out our other article on things that everyone should know.
When your roommate, partner, spouse, child, etc. just got home and is still taking off their shoes, putting their keys away, etc....do NOT greet them with a "to-do" request or some sort of reminder. It's a universally s****y feeling to be greeted by that.
Always leave a place a little better than you found it 🌱✨. Whether it's cleaning up after yourself at a friend's place, picking up litter during a walk, or just offering a kind word to someone in need, these small acts of kindness and respect make a huge difference. It's about adding value to the world in tiny, manageable ways. 🌍❤️
Never screw with someone’s lunch break. Most people hate their jobs, and that half hour to an hour they get to be on their own and enjoy their food and/or just time alone is sometimes the only peace and enjoyment they get for 8+ hours.
If you see someone eating in their car, park or walk somewhere else away from them so you don’t disturb them, if they’re in the office by themself, wait until they’re done to talk to them, if it’s close to the normal lunch hours (between 12-2PM), anything you need from that person can wait until after they get back from their lunch. Never. F**k. With. Lunch.
Learning to 'read the room' is one of the most important, and probably underrated, social skills to have in your locker.
If you're leading a conversation and the other person/people start to look away, act slightly distracted, or interject with different topics, take the hint and change the subject.
Not everyone is as interested as you are in your favourite topics. It doesn't mean you're boring (necessarily), but this isn't the right audience for whatever you're talking about right now.
I'm consistently blown away by the number of grown adults, even in their 30s or 40s, who haven't learned this yet and just yammer on obliviously.
Relationships (romantic, familial, friendly, work) are compromise. If you're not willing to help the world around you, don't be surprised when the world doesn't help you in return.
Kindness will be the most valuable item you can use as currency. Without it, you lose long term value with everything we touch.
Examples of a person who invested with kindness?
Mister Rogers
He earned the respect and dignity of the world.
Ive always put this rule directly under the golden one.
NEVER OVERSTAY YOUR WELCOME.
Don’t waste time trying to convince people to care about you. They will or they won’t.
Respect the atmosphere of the room you walk into. If it's quiet, you will be quiet. If it's louder, you can be loud.
Give a little wave of acknowledgement when someone let's you merge / join the stream of traffic. Flash your lights if there's cops up the road. (Or pat the top of your helmet I'd you're riding a moto). Edit: I'm aware it's illegal in many places, it's illegal where I live too but we still do it 2 finger wave if you're in the middle of whoopwhoop and pass another car.
If someone takes the time and goes to the expense of sending you a gift for your graduation, wedding, baby shower, etc., have the common decency to acknowledge it and send a thank you note, email, text, or phone call.
Think of your future self not as your current state/mindset but as someone else you have to protect and provide for because that's who they are.
You don't know what they want differently than you do now, what has happened to them, their health, their tragedies, their triumphs, the lessons you haven't had yet, the changes you don't know you have to make, what feelings you have now that they don't... So make sure you're setting them up with the best intentions at heart. They are relying on you for stability & safety, and are watching you thru the memories you're creating now.
As a dog owner I would like to see more people ask if its okay to pet the dog, not just go for it. Children are usually good at asking first, but way to many adults just go for it. My dog is not yours to just pet. Ask first. And deal with the answer sometimes will be no.
If someone tells you something that
- is private
- isn't illegal, immoral, or otherwise putting anyone's life or finances or property at risk
then keep it the f**k to yourself unless prompted otherwise by that person.
Mood and feelings are like the weather. "I've found that it's of some help to think of one's moods and feelings about the world as being similar to weather. Here are some obvious things about the weather: It’s real. You can't change it by wishing it away. If it's dark and rainy it really is dark and rainy and you can't alter it. It might be dark and rainy for two weeks in a row. But. It will be sunny one day. In the same way that one has to accept the weather, so one has to accept how one feels about life sometimes. "Today's a c**p day," is a perfectly realistic approach. It's all about finding a kind of mental umbrella. "Hey-ho, it's raining inside: it isn’t my fault and there's nothing I can do about it, but sit it out. But the sun may well come out tomorrow and when it does, I shall take full advantage."
When someone asks you "How are you?" as a greeting, its OK to lie. That is not the time to trauma dump.
You see someone nicking baby food, nappies, pads, tampons etc you stay quiet.
If your coworkers literally turn their backs to you and don’t respond to you as you speak, it’s a good indication you should stop talking.
People you work with are NOT your friends. They can become your friends AFTER you leave that job, but not while you’re working together.
People are really unaccustomed to others admitting they have screwed up. Most drama in your personal or professional life can be avoided by just straight up contacting the person or people you let down or impacted and saying “hey, I f-ed up but am getting it fixed” instead of letting them discover it. And if you can’t fix it, an apology that *doubles down* on your guilt will usually suffice. “Hey, I f-ed up, it’s totally my fault, I just dropped the ball and there’s no excuse.”
The power comes from not letting them have time to fume over it or giving them room to talk down to you. You’re in control.
Occasionally you’ll screw up so bad that the response is not so understanding, but at that point you probably have a major lesson to learn.
That said, there are absolutely times when admitting guilt has serious consequences and you have to mitigate the damage (think legal consequences in which admission of guilt will have a long lasting impact). Of course, if you’re in *that* situation, you need a lawyer.
Self-awareness is a superpower, to be able to pat your own back and call yourself on your c**p is priceless.
At a house party if the toilet door is closed it is occupied. When open it is available to use. So many ppl close the door after use when nobody is there.
The only time you look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure they have enough.
Greeting your coworkers when you arrive at work. It’s basic manners that I know a lot of people don’t follow.
Chew t with your mouth closed. And don't talk with food in your mouth.
Carry your own weight. Nobody likes a burden, nobody respects a parasite, and you aren’t entitled to anything. When I actually learned to provide for myself growing up, was when I finally developed self-respect.
Driver’s ed teacher decades ago:
Never stop driving the car. If it looks like you’re about to be in an accident, do not let go of the wheel, close your eyes, and scream because you will be in a wreck. If you keep driving the car, you might get lucky and drive through it, it will certainly be a better outcome than giving up.
This advice applies in general - Never stop driving, no matter how bad things seem.
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